Famous professor, Dr. John Gottman is known for his work on marital stability and relationship analysis through scientific direct observations. In Gottman’s studies, he found that couples spending at least five hours a week together on their relationship fared the best over time. In order to succeed it is important for the couple to accomplish four things during those five hours:
1. Learn one thing that happened in your spouse’s life each day for that week - make it meaningful.
2. Have a stress reducing conversation at the end of each day that week - don't focus on the stress focus on only talking about the positives.
3. Do something special every day to show affection and appreciation - write little love notes that your spouse will find (on the dashboard of the car, use washable markers to write on the shower wall, something that may seem small and insignificant actually has a lasting impact)
4. Have a weekly date - dates do not need to be elaborate but they do need to happen! Find a day each week that works out with both of your schedules. Do something small or save up a little to splurge on a restaurant you've been wanting to try, but make it a special time to look forward to. In the long run this will keep your relationship to continue springing forward!
By consistently doing these four things it will start to create an environment of growth and development allowing your relationship and marriage to become more strengthened as a result.
There should always be time for your love, no matter what
five hours does not take up too much of that time since you have forever together!
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